Diana Lu, Contributor

When a man repeats exactly what a woman just said in a patronizing, authoritative voice.

When a man wasn’t paying attention to a woman speak and asks a question that she just answered.

When a man suggests an idea that everyone loves, which was the same idea a woman suggested that was ignored.

When a man suggests an idea that everyone loves, which was an idea the woman next to him whispered to him to suggest so that it doesn’t get discredited right away.*

When a customer asks a male salesperson the same question they just asked a female salesperson and the male salesperson gives him the same answer the female salesperson just gave him.

When a man orders for his date at a restaurant, even though she already gave the waiter her order.

When a man thinks he’s quoting Einstein, but he’s actually quoting Marie Curie.**

When a man explains a female comedian’s joke to a woman.

When a man explains a female comedian’s joke back to the comedian.

When a man explains a female comedian’s joke back to the comedian and why he thinks it’s not funny.

When a man explains a female comedian’s joke back to the comedian and why he thinks it’s not funny and therefore all women aren’t funny.

When a man makes a viral tweet that is, word for word, the exact same joke a female comedian posted a year ago.

When a white woman does any of the above to a woman of color.

When your boss asks you to take notes during a meeting even though you’re the most senior person in the room. Write “That’s what she said” after every line. Because fuck him.

*If you are that man, point to the woman who gave you that idea and say “That’s what she said!”
**point to a photo of Marie Curie and say “That’s what she said!”

Diana Lu is a writer, comedian, and scientist in Boston, Massachusetts.